Pastor Jerry Weddings


Pastor Jerry graduated from Bowling Green State University (The Fighting Falcons) in Ohio where he met Debbie Pavlansky, a beautiful compassionate girl who caught his eye and won his heart. Actually he chased her!  They were married a few years later. Pastor Jerry and Debbie have four children and four grandchildren. He received a Master's of Divinity and a Doctorate for pastoral ministry. He has fun and meaningful memories of growing in a large family in Alliance, Ohio. 
My Wedding 34 Years Ago

Pastor Jerry is the Senior Pastor of Kirk Church www.kirkchurch.com in Dunedin, Florida. He has also served to churches in Indiana.  Kirk Church is a non-denominational church.  He is a movie nut, the more action the better, but can tolerate a good chick flick if he has too.  He says that pastors "throw dirt, water and rice."  He enjoys the wedding part of ministry very much and helping couples confess their love publicly in fun and meaningful ceremonies.  Contact him today about your wedding jjritt@hotmail.com.  Call or text (727)735-2089

Wedding Ceremony


(Ceremony Begins after Bridal Party Gathers at the front)

 

WORDS TO THE GUESTS  

Friends, we are gathered here to witness the marriage of ________ and _________, who stand before you in love, trust and hope.  They ask God to bless their coming together and to sustain them in the years to come, and they ask us to be present
with them, to share and celebrate in their love.  

 

CHARGE TO THE COUPLE  

________ and _________, I charge you before these people, and in the sight of God
of whom the secrets of your hearts are known, that having seriously considered
the promises you are about to make, you do now sincerely declare your trust to
one another.  Be well aware that if you honor the vows you are about to make,
and if you are steadfast in them, God will grant you fulfillment in your marriage
and establish your home in peace.  

 

PRESENTATION OF THE BRIDE IN MARRIAGE

(Brides parent’s names) ___________and _________, (bride) ________ loves you
both very much and is honored by your respect of her decision to marry __________.  In return will you now express your love for your daughter and grant your blessing
of this marriage?  I give you an opportunity to express your favor and willfully grant the hand of your daughter in marriage to (groom)  __________ with this question? Who now gives this woman to be married to this man?  

 

ANSWER:  “Her mother and I”.  or “I do”.

 

OR SIMPLY:

Who presents this woman to be married to this man?   Answer:  _______________

 

PRAYER

Lord you are good.  Marriage is your idea.  We thank you for bringing _______ and ________ together, and for bringing them to this point of commitment.  We call on You today because _________ and _________ are your children, created and molded for your purpose.  We ask that you would bless their marriage with peace, love and understanding.  We ask that you will protect and guide them in their decisions.  Lure them to depend on you and to live in your favor at all times.  Be present in their home and be glorified in their marriage.  In Jesus’ name.  Amen.

 

READING  

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn’t selfish, or quick-tempered.  It doesn’t keep a record of wrongs that others do.  Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting. Love never fails!

 

THE QUESTION (Pastor asks)

(Groom)  Do you ______________ take ______________ to be your own beloved wife, your dearest friend, and your most treasured companion.   “I DO”

 

(Bride)  Do you ______________ take ______________ to be your own beloved husband, your dearest friend, and your most treasured companion.   “I DO”

 

 

COMMITMENT VOWS (Repeat after Pastor)

 

I _______, take you ________, to be my wife.  To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness in health, to love
and to cherish, as long as we both shall live.  I pledge to you my love.  

 

I _______, take you ________, to be my husband.  To have and to hold, from this
day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness in health,
to love and to cherish, as long as we both shall live.  I pledge to you my love. 

 

EXCHANGING OF THE RINGS

Pastor’s Words:  “The unbroken circle of the wedding ring represents the promise
of an unbroken commitment by both the bride and groom as they give this gift to each other.  

 

GROOM TO BRIDE (Repeat after Pastor)

“In token of my love and devotion, I pledge to you, all that I am, and all that I ever will be.  With this ring, I gladly join my life to yours.”
 
BRIDE TO GROOM (Repeat after Pastor)

“In token of my love and devotion, I pledge to you, all that I am, and all that I ever will be.  With this ring, I gladly join my life to yours.”

  

SPECIAL ACTIVITY: 
Some ideas include:     
Unity Candle                   
Breaking the Glass
Sand Ceremony               
Jumping the Broom
Flowers t Parents            
Blessing of Hands
Open Letter                    
Wine & Letter Box
Releasing Doves              
Releasing Butterflies

 
THE PRONOUNCEMENT

For as much as _________ and ___________ have consented together in holy matrimony, and have witnessed the same before God and this company, and have pledged their faith each to the other by sharing of vows and giving and receiving rings, I announce that they are now husband and wife.  


You may kiss your bride. 

I now present to you:

Mr. and Mrs. __________ and __________   _________________________________
 

The Right Venue



My local church is open for use by any bride and groom who desire a beautiful, center isle sanctuary. The Kirk of Dunedin Community Church is a wonderful venue for weddings. The sanctuary seats more than 500 with a large front chancel, two grand pianos and a classic theater organ. For a small fee you can host your event in this beautiful sanctuary. The church website is www.kirkchurch.com. Call 727-733-9305 to set up an appointment to see the sanctuary or if you have questions.




Some people love the idea of an outside wedding. For that I recommend the Rusty Pelican Restaurant in Tampa. The Rusty Pelican is a full service restaurant offering a Gulf Side Gazebo for your wedding, and beautiful rooms for your reception. The website for the Rusty Pelican is http://tampa.therustypelican.com

Here is a watercolor painting of the Rusty Pelican Gazebo by my wife Debbie who is an internationally known artis. If you would like a personalized painting of any kind, or a original of the Rusty Pelican Wedding Gazebo, contact me at jjritt@hotmail.com and I'll give your email along to her.



Wedding Readings

There are many beautiful readings for weddings. They are broken into two groups: Bible Verses and Other Readings. Here are some ideas for your wedding.

1 Corinthians 13:1-8a and 13 (all or part)
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails....And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Song of Solomon 8:6-7

Place me like a seal over your heart,
like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
its jealousy unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
like a mighty flame.

Many waters cannot quench love;
rivers cannot wash it away.
If one were to give
all the wealth of his house for love,
it would be utterly scorned.

Genesis 2:18-24

The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

Song of Solomon 2:10-13

My lover spoke and said to me,
"Arise, my darling,
my beautiful one, and come with me.

See! The winter is past;
the rains are over and gone.

Flowers appear on the earth;
the season of singing has come,
the cooing of doves
is heard in our land.

The fig tree forms its early fruit;
the blossoming vines spread their fragrance.
Arise, come, my darling;
my beautiful one, come with me."

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Song of Solomon 7:10-12

I belong to my lover,
and his desire is for me.

Come, my lover, let us go to the countryside,
let us spend the night in the villages.

Let us go early to the vineyards
to see if the vines have budded,
if their blossoms have opened,
and if the pomegranates are in bloom
there I will give you my love.

Proverbs 30:18-19
There are three things that amaze me—
no, four things that I don’t understand:
how an eagle glides through the sky,
how a snake slithers on a rock,
how a ship navigates the ocean,
how a man loves a woman.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:

a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,

a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,

a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,

a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,

a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,

a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

Colossians 3:12-17

Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.


Irish Wedding Blessing

May God go with you and bless you,
May you see your children`s children,
May you be poor in misfortune and rich in blessings,
May you know nothing but happiness from this day forward.

May joy and peace surround you both,
Contentment latch your door,
And happiness be with you now And God Bless you Evermore.
May you live you life with trust, And nurture lifelong affection,
May your lifelong dreams come true for you, Move ever that direction.

May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
May the light of friendship guide your paths together,
May the laughter of children grace the halls of your home.
May the joy of living for each
other trip a smile from your lips, a twinkle from your eye.
And when eternity beckons,
at the end of the life heaped high with love,
May the good Lord embrace you
with the arms that have nurtured you
the whole length of your joy-filled days.
May the gracious God hold you both
in the palm of His hands.
And, today, may the Spirit of Love
find a dwelling place in your hearts.